Fear of Intimacy in Men - How to Overcome it
There are a lot of factors that make men scared of intimacy. This fear
of intimacy in men may be driven from past failed relationships. Other
men, on the other hand, just feel like they are being suffocated when
things start to become serious. To achieve emotional intimacy with your
man, you need to understand the origin of any reluctance he feels.
Intimacy could mean a lot of things. Emotional intimacy means emotional
closeness. Between a man and a woman, this entails the two persons
involved to have a deep level of feelings towards each other. This deep
connection is rarely achieved by men because they prevent things from
going too far. Fear of intimacy in men and its causes may need to be
traced before it could be conquered. If you know where his fear comes
from, you will know what he needs and what you need to do.
If his fear came from past hurt or disappointment, he should not let it keep him from living his life. If it is because he has experienced rejection before or his ex-girlfriend cheated on him, you need to open his mind to other possibilities. Not every woman in this world has the intention of hurting him. Show him you are capable of showing loyalty and true love.
Everyone deserves to be happy. If he wants a change in his love life, he may need to change his level of trust. Fear of intimacy in men is commonly caused by mistrust. If he doesn't trust a woman, then the moment he starts to feel that she's coming too close, he'll immediately run away. He has trust issues because he has this mental note that women and relationships will only hurt him and leave him vulnerable. And what's sad is that he has made this perception permanent. That's why it already became his immediate response to shut his feelings out and push women away. You need to show him that he can trust you.
It may be true that most intimate relationships that he will get himself into will come to an end. It's not being cynical. It's being realistic. But as much as these relationships would eventually cause him pain when he decides to part ways, there is this one relationship that will work out and she is the right woman for him. He will not be able to find this person if he does not go out there and try to overcome his fear of intimacy. You need to convince him that the prize is worth the effort and pain. Sports may be a good metaphor.
The fear of intimacy in men that is caused by fear of responsibility is quite a different story. It is a known fact that when he becomes intimate with someone or if he is in a relationship, there are certain limitations. It's like he has to think about his partner all the time. In every decision he'll make, he will have to consider how she would feel. And being in this kind of situation makes men feel like they are in a box. Men in nature love their independence, and this is one thing that they would hate to lose. Hence, they avoid being intimate with women. If this is how he thinks and feels, you need to show that you are not clingy. He can still keep his autonomy while he is in a relationship with you. You need to show that you are mature enough to understand his needs.
This is a version of an article we've published in various ezines, blogs, and article directories.
