Dealing With Commitment Issues In Men
Commitment issues in men are the main reasons why some of them still remain single even if they are already in the marrying age. They may declare their undying love to women, but are afraid of tying of knot. Most women, on the other hand, are eagerly yet patiently waiting for men to make their marriage proposals. But what if in the course of their relationship, the man still has not expressed his intent to marry her? Could he be reluctant to commit? Could he have commitment phobia?
It helps to understand that if a man takes commitment seriously, it is rational for him to be apprehensive. You are asking him to become responsible for your and your children's well being for the rest of his life, and to sacrifice his dreams and his happiness if necessary to do so. Every good man has some commitment issues. Some prudence is to be expected. Here is a video full of insights about men's reluctance to commit.
Here are some signs that your man has more than normal commitment issues:
He has never talked about marriage.
He always tries to change the topic or avoid talking about tying the knot every time you bring it up. Talking about it makes him uncomfortable.
He was the one who broke up with his ex's.
He limits the time he spends with you.
He never talks about his family with you.
He has no plans of introducing you to his family.
He can be romantic at a particular time but the next moment, you will be surprised with his sudden mood changes. He will try to initiate an argument.
If you see all or some of these signs then you better prepare yourself in dealing with commitment issues in your man.
When trapped with a commitment averse boyfriend, you have no other choice but to deal with it. If you are the type of person who does not want to wait longer or if you are afraid to get hurt later on, you may decide to end your relationship and move on with your life. But if you are really that much in love with him that you want to take the risk of being with him, the good news is that you can help him get rid of his reluctance to commit. This will be a big challenge for you.
A man with commitment issues is still capable of falling in love. He is just afraid of commitment. You can use his love for you to change his perception about being committed.
How? First and foremost, you have to put out more effort to create a more serious connection between you and make him aware how deeply connected he already is. It is much easier to get married officially once he realizes he is already married in fact and that it suits him.
You set the pace of your relationship because if he is the one to set the pace, he will still continue his "commitment avoidance" behavior. You know that he loves you, but do not push him to talk about tying the knot because you will just make him stay away. You have to be patient while working on it.
After creating that intimate connection between the two of you, try to be away from him for a few days or weeks. Change your availability. Do not always be available whenever he calls to see you. Make him miss you. Get busy with other things and spend more time with your friends than with him. Make him feel as if he is losing you. This will make him realize that he cannot live without you and eventually he will initiate tying you in marriage.
More importantly, you need to understand that most men have a sense of destiny, a sense that there is a higher purpose to their lives, even if they don't fully know what it is, and that purpose is not in the realm of marriage and family. He may be holding himself free for that role. It is a part of the dreams he may be forced to give up to care for a family. Viewed in this way, he feels that marriage may be a betrayal of the higher purpose of his life. You must give him the sense that marriage will help him achieve his higher purpose. To learn more about this, watch this video through. (Yes, the video will offer you a product with further information, but the way they hope to sell you is to give you a huge amount of information for free.)
In summary, dealing with commitment issues in men involves time, effort and determination combined with true love. You need to show him that to the extent he is committed, his life is better.
Resources
Our page on commitment.
The mini-course we offer. Just sign up in the sidebar.
The Girl Gets Ring system. You owe it to yourself to watch their video, although it is a bit long, for all of the insights it offers.
This is a version of an article we've published in various ezines, blogs, and article directories.
